Monday, September 24th, 2018

## The 90/10 Principle

[ Friday, 13 August, 2010 ]

The 90/10 Principle

Author: Stephen Covey

Discover the 90/10 Principle

(or at least, the way you react to situations)

What is this Principle?

10% of life is made up

of what happens to you.

…90% of life is decided by

how you react…

What does this mean?

We really have NO control over 10% of what happens to us.

We cannot stop the car from breaking down.

The plane will be late arriving, which throws our whole schedule off.

A driver may cut us off in the traffic.

We have NO control over this 10%.

The other 90% is different.

You determine the other 90%.

You cannot control a red light.

However, you can control your reaction.

Do not let people fool you.

YOU can control how you react.

Let us use an example…

You are having breakfast with your family.

Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee

You have no control over what has just happened.

What happens next

will be determined by how you react.

You curse.

You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over.

She breaks down in tears.

After scolding her, you turn to your wife

and you criticize her for placing the cup

too close to the edge of the table.

A short verbal battle follows.

You storm upstairs and change your shirt.

Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying

to finish her breakfast and getting ready to go to school.

She misses the bus.

Your spouse must leave immediately for work.

You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school.

Because you are late,

you drive 40 miles per hour

in a 30 mph speed limit zone.

After a 15-minute delay and throwing

\$60.00 traffic fine away, you arrive at school.

Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye.

After arriving at the office 20 minute late,

You realize you forgot your briefcase.

Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse.

You look forward to coming home.

When you arrive home, you find a small wedge

Why?

Because of how you reacted in the morning .

Why did you have a bad day?

A) Did the coffee cause it?

B) Did your daughter cause it?

C) Did the policeman cause it?

D) Did you cause it?

You had no control over what happened with the coffee.

How you reacted in those 5 seconds

Here is what could have and should have happened.

Coffee splashes over you.

You gently say:

“It’s okay, honey, you just need to be

More careful next time.”

Grabbing a towel you go upstairs and change your shirt.

You grab your briefcase, and you come back down in time to look through

the window and see your child getting on the bus.

She turns and waves. You arrive 5 minutes early a cheerfully greet the staff.

Notice the difference?

Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 Principle.

If someone says something negative about you,

do not be a sponge.

Let the attack roll off like water on glass.

You do not have to let the negative comments

affect you.

React properly and it will not ruin your day.

A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend,

being fired, or getting stressed out.

How do you react if someone cuts you off in the traffic?

Pound on the steering wheel? (a friend of mine had the steering wheel fall off),

Do you curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket?

Who cares if you arrive 10 seconds later at work?

Why let the cars ruin your drive?

Remember the 90/10 Principle

You are told you lost your job.

Why lose sleep and get irritated?

It will work out.

Use your worrying energy and time

to find a new job.

The plane is late. It is going to mangle your schedule for the day.

Why take out your frustration on the flight attendant?

She has no control over what is going on.

Use your time to study, get to know the other passenger, why stress out?

It will just make things worse.

You will lose nothing if you try it.

The 90/10 Principle is incredible.

Very few know and apply this Principle.

The result?

You will see it by yourself!

Millions of people are suffering

from undeserved stress,

We all must understand and apply the

90/10 Principle.

…Enjoy it…

It only takes willpower to give ourselves

permission to make the experience.

Absolutely everything we do, give, say, or even think, it ’s like a Boomerang.

It will come back to us…

If we want to receive, we need to learn to give first…

Maybe we will end with our hands empty,

but our heart will be filled with love…

And those who love life,

have that feeling marked in their hearts …

The End